“Sometimes you’re the windshield/Sometimes you’re the bug.” Remember that lyric from “The Bug” by Mary Chapin Carpenter?
Well, it’s true at work too. Sometimes your boss is the problem and sometimes it’s also you.
Sizing up expectations
It’s pretty typical to make the boss the center of our job universe. We somehow expect the boss to be what we need him/her to be so we can succeed. When they fall short, we get frustrated.
In truth, although there are plenty of great bosses, there are many who:
- Simply don’t, won’t or can’t supervise
- Over-control or micro-manage
- Misuse or abuse their authority
- Can’t make a decision, waffle on or retract them
- Pay no or too much attention to you
More often than not, employees with bosses like these start feeling like “the bug.”
We set ourselves up to becoming frustrated when we expect our bosses to:
- Tell us what to do in our jobs and how
- Care about our growth and provide opportunities
- Put our ideas into practice
- Communicate everything going on in the company
- Adopt an interpersonal and/or leadership style that we like
The hard reality is that they are the boss. They don’t have make any changes just to accommodate us. However, we can do plenty to turn things around to our favor.
The art of self-supervising
To be successful in our jobs, we need to do things that makes our boss’s life easier which includes not having to be preoccupied with supervising us.
This means learning how to supervise yourself by looking at what you’re doing and how you’re doing it just, as your boss does.
Start by looking at how your job impacts your boss and the company. Then work each day to:
- Deliver on the high priority output/impact goals in your job
- Hold yourself accountable for results (no excuse-making)
- Be a positive force when working with others (setting ego aside)
- Make decisions/take actions that make sense all around
- Show respect to the organization and its leaders
- Follow procedures, processes, and policies (even when you might disagree)
- Communicate with your boss routinely on your work activities; seek direction
If you conduct yourself as a self-managed employee, your boss will see you more as a colleague than a subordinate.
Remember: Your boss has his/her own boss to contend with (which may be no picnic) as well as the company’s performance expectations and the needs of their other employees.
Your boss wants employees who understand the needs of the business beyond just daily tasks. S/he doesn’t want to babysit employees and deal with a lot of nagging complaints. That’s a sign of ego-centeredness when what’s needed is collaborative teamwork.
Talk the talk as you walk the walk
When you self-supervise, you necessarily look at yourself at arm’s length. You’re taking a big picture view of your work and an objective snapshot of the way you’re going about it.
In some ways, self-supervision is like creating an out-of-body experience with you looking at yourself from a distanced vantage point.
The beauty of self-supervision is that it is actual supervision with you practicing on yourself. It also means you’re critiquing your work using the language of a supervisor.
It’s important that you meet routinely with your boss, so please get in the habit of scheduling time for that, proposing specific agenda of topics. (Keep the meeting to no more than 30 minutes.)
Talk about your activities and projects in terms of goals achieved, decisions made or anticipated, new ideas, and process improvements.
Give your boss to an opportunity to talk with you like a colleague. Help him/her realize that you understand the pressures s/he is under. Offer your support when needed.
Your boss can help or hinder your progress and you can do the same for him or her. A wise bug avoids the windshield. Let that be you.
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